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Guilt

I have been thinking about guilt lately. I have been doing some reading about it tonight on explorefaith.org. This is a website with some very interesting things on it about faith.

The quote I want to use in this post comes from an article about letting go:

—Less guilt.
You will become more sensitive to the difference between meaningful guilt (a failure to be true to your best self that invites change) and senseless guilt (a feeling of inadequacy based on the opinions and expectations of others.) The words ought,should, must, and supposed to will virtually disappear from your vocabulary—replaced by I will, I choose, and I want.


This small paragraph confirms for me what I was beginning to think about guilt. Guilt is not inherently bad/negative, it is a human emotion like any other. The line, "meaningful guilt (a failure to be true to your best self) and senseless guilt (a feeling of inadequacy based on the opinions and expectations of others.)" really stuck a cord with me. 

I want less guilt in my life. I don't want it to be the reason I do what I do in my life. I tell my life what I do, not vice versa. I am going to make the words ought, should, must, and supposed to be red flag words in my brain. Those words are not going to drive me. 

Here is to taking steps in letting go of guilt. 

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